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Roughhousing and its benefits

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Every time I lay on the floor my girls ( 2 and 6 years old) throw themselves at me an start to play rough and dangerous games. I was always a bit scared of those, but they enjoyed it so much, so we did it on a daily basis. The more dangerous it was, the more they were screaming of excitement.

A while ago I accidentally came across with the information how good it actually is for our kids! I was stunned…

What it’s all about

Let me walk you through some basic information on roughhousing and its benefits and then I will show you how we do it.

First of all, when I say rough, I don’t mean hurting someone or causing pain… Just some at first sight rough or dangerous games in a safe and secure area that you have under control.

When you begin this game it is a bit of a small stressor. Everything wakes up, their heart rate increases and their mind thinks like it has entered a superhero cartoon and fights with the devil… LOL.

To keep the mind safe BDNF (Brain-Derived Neurotrophic Factor) is released. It is some kind of our system made medicine for healthy brain growth and development. After worth, they are more relaxed, happier, and connected to us. 

Think of it as a sort of practice on how to cope with challenging, unpredictable situations, but in a safe place, where they learn we are always near to protect and support them.  These new situations teach their brain how to cope with new, unexpected, and unfamiliar situations in life and how to manage all the new emotions that will come.

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Its pure fun

You will see that laughter will release all the stress and they will be calmer after, and more cooperative for whatever obligations they have.

It’s about having fun! Not winning… That is something they will learn and enjoy.

It’s about spending time with mum or dad, or both, making a stronger connection and feeling so close to you. Roughhousing makes your bond even stronger. They learn you are always ready to have fun, will never hurt them and will keep them safe.

Seeing you holding back not to cause pain will teach them self-control. Also, it will teach an older sibling how to play with a younger, smaller brother or a sister… or a friend.

It’s about moments when everything else disappears… Not one trouble in their mind… Just pure fun and laughing out loud. Doesn’t this sound like paradise for kids?

Everyone can do it!

The most benefits get kids from 2 to 8 years old, but hey… Everyone is welcome and having fun has no age limit.

Children often use this method to show affection for friends,  it strengthens their relationship. Parents must always guide them on boundaries and the respect needed when roughhousing with a friend. They must learn when having fun is not so funny anymore. It must be accepted and willingly on both sides.

And yes… The tears…

Tears aren’t so bad as you might think. It is actually a good thing sometimes. When they start to cry, and it seems it’s because of the game, but if you know that the child didn’t really get hurt… It is actually getting bad feelings out of the system. Something they have been holding back and just couldnt process it, some deep wounds, worries or memories stuffed somewhere in that wonderous mind of a child. Let them cry it out… Hold them, and give them comfort. A good cry is something we all should do sometimes. Holding everything and swollowing it inside doesent do us any good. So, let them cry and be sad if it comes to them.

How we do it

There is no rule actually, most of the times it is just something that comes to us at the moment.

For example:

  • I lay on the floor and my girls throw themselves at me, and then I bounce them off as I pretend I am some kind of a monster or a tiger
  • Wrestling game… This one my older understands better. Its a real wrestling match where I try to throw her on her back. I must say, she is pretty strong and I dont have to pretend I cannot do it ha-ha.
  • Pilates ball as a trampoline: I put the ball in the corner of the sofa on the floor, hold it with my knees and they hold my hands and jump really high

So that you can understand me better maybe its better to show you… Check out our short roughhousing compilation. Hope you like it…

Enjoy rollling on the floor with your little ones, wake up the baby inside you. I am sure there are lots of benefits for us adults also. If nothing, just seeing their smile makes us happier and healthier.

Enjoy…

And remember…

WE ARE STRONGER THAN WE ALL THINK!

Enjoy rollling on the floor with your little ones, wake up the baby inside you. I am sure there are lots of benefits for us adults also. If nothing, just seeing their smile makes us happier and healthier.

Enjoy…

And remember…

WE ARE STRONGER THAN WE ALL THINK!

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